Guys can be so weird.
I don’t think I’ll ever understand how my husband’s mind works. Or why he waits SO LONG to tell me when he doesn’t like something. Yesterday we were sitting down to a very boring dinner… a bagel and cream cheese and a little broccoli and cashew salad on the side. It’s like 10 million and two degrees here so you know, nothing fancy.
Yada yada yada…
As we were talking, he slides half of the cream cheese I had put on his bagel onto his plate.
Mavis: What are you doing?
HH: What?
Mavis: I thought you liked a lot of cream cheese on your bagels…
HH: ??
Mavis: How many times have I heard the story about how when you were younger you used to go down to the Harbor House {restaurant} and order bagels and cream cheese and how they used to come with a massive amount of cream cheese on them and oh how those were the days… blah blah blah?
HH: What? Did I say that?
Mavis: Yes. Like 52 times over the past 28 years. That’s why I’ve always loaded your bagels with a ton of cream cheese.
HH: Oh, well, I don’t like a lot of cream cheese on my bagels.
Mavis: >> BLANK STARE <<
And all I could think about was how much cream cheese I’ve wasted over the past TWENTY EIGHT years we’ve been together. Husbands. They’re a flippin’ mystery.
And that’s all I have to say about that.
~Mavis
Jen says
I feel your pain, Mavis! I have been making a chicken and spinach dish once per month. After twenty years, he confessed he hated it. I guess he feared I would never cook again if he complained.
Kay Bowles says
Mavis, you crack me up! Keith and I have been married 40 years and he is still a work in progress! And we have 2 sons and 4 grandsons that are just like him! I am grateful for 2 beautiful daughter-in-laws to keep me balanced! LOL!!! Hang in there! The mystery of men will never change!
Michelle says
My husband is the opposite! After years of telling me he DIDN’T like something, he will out of the blue tell me he does. Turns out, he’d never actually tried it before and just assumed it’s something he wouldn’t like!!!
Amy R Burton says
Yep, 28 years together here and I swear he is the polar opposite of the guy I married! Constantly tells everyone around him how he’s NOT
PiCKY ( I have 7 kids as witness, I swear!) then proceeds to nitpick literally every dish on the table. Husbands…go figure!
Rosaleen says
Married 50 years. All I can say is “Yup!” to all of the above…
Connie says
Married 30 years and it still amazes me that he decides he doesn’t like certain foods like pizza but he loves bread and sauce. Another great example is he says he doesn’t like cheese, but he love lasagna and stuffed shells. I learned along time ago, to make whatever I want to make and just put it on the plate, no questions asked. He always eats it and no negative comments are given.
Linda Practical Parsimony says
Tommy tells me all the time how he hates eggs. I love scrambled eggs that he refuses to eat, so at the church dinner he loads up on scrambled eggs. I was astounded! Then, he went right back to “I hate eggs” as soon as he finished eating eggs.
Lynn from NC Outer Banks says
Mavis, I’m laughing out loud here in NC! And I’d be like you-thinking of all the cream cheese I could have saved over the decades!
When I married my husband (42 yrs ago) he ate minimal vegetables. (salad, green beans, slaw) Well, I eat all veggies, so have fixed whatever I’ve wanted through the years and he has (had) learned to eat them all. NOW he decides that he’s sick of salads and turns up his nose at many other previously eaten other veggies. He’s become like a 2 year old at the age of 66! But like Connie, I just fix what I want and he will usually eat it 🙂
Jen F says
Haha, I totally get this. My husband just told me this past winter that he does not like lemon in his hot tea. All the years I made it with lemon…we fell on love 26 years ago, have been married 15 this fall. Iced tea lots of lemon, hot tea none, now I know! And P.S. now I am ready for a bagel with cream cheese. Thankful I have both in the house!
Micaela says
Mavis!! I’m in the same boat here!! Recently found out (only after a few years though) that my husband only likes a thin layer spread over his bagel!! Too funny all these years I’ve loaded them up with cream cheese!
He also managed to salvage my feelings after the first few times I made chicken piccata that he doesn’t like capers or lemony-chicken… he suffered through the first few meals of it however to be nice lol!
Jamie Johnson says
Yep… For 38 years I’ve cooked my husbands bacon extra crispy because that’s the way he ordered it while eating breakfast out during our honeymoon. Last year, while eating breakfast at home he stated he hates crispy bacon, he prefers it softer. Thanks for finally letting me know.
Jamie Nguyen says
In the picture it looks like Lucy would Loooooove plenty of cream cheese on a bagel!
Been together with my husband for 25 years. He is an immigrant and definitely less picky than most and is quick to tell me how much he likes my cooking.
He is funny sometimes and likes to comment on how much cheese is on something, saying there is too much….. always people put on too much cheese, even if he’s the one putting too much cheese on! Haha!
Brianna says
I am laughing! Seriously, what is it with husbands admitting their food preferences years after marriage? We have been married 16 years, my husband told me a few years ago he hates cantaloupe and melon and pineapple and mango and kiwi. I guess all of the fruits that supposedly give him heartburn. But I buy dried pineapple or mango and he is crying he didn’t get any. I am not going to save or stash any away for him if I know he hates it. We have a CSA share (thanks Mel for the idea) and I have been sautéing greens….spinach, Swiss chard, beet, etc. and serving them and I have been doing it our entire marriage. He looked at me seriously across the dinner table a few weeks ago and threw a 2 year old tantrum about sautéed greens. Apparently he will only eat them fresh and has always hated them too. He also hates curries now, which I cook a lot of my ethnic food and I love the aroma and comfort. He was seriously gagging last time I made butter chicken.
My parents have been married 46 years and all my mother makes is meat and salad because my father doesn’t care for anything else. Every single meal is beef seasoned only with salt and pepper and a Iceberg salad. She stopped making other foods years ago because he complained so much. He eats the same everyday, toast with peanut butter, apple, crackers and cheese and bologna, beef steak, and iceberg salad. Every single day! I learned how twisted it was when I had to shop groceries for two months for them during quarantine and they insist on it all being organic. Organic Grass fed bologna is hard to find and ridiculous to me.
Leslie H says
The truth is that they change — but they insist it has always been that way. And look at us like “How did you not know that?” OHFORGOODNESS!
Dianne says
LOL! Yep – just ONE day I would like to be inside my husband’s brain! I just can’t imagine what goes on up there.
Terena says
Not me, that would just be scary! Men really are from Mars
Lynne says
It could be worse. I had one who, if I put a meal on the table that he THOUGHT he wouldn’t like … well, he’d just pick it all up, serving dishes and all, and put it outside in the garbage. Had to call in a whole man disposal unit on that @$$hat. Yours is a keeper.
Renay Bennett says
30 years I have been making chili. Last month dear husband says ‘I don’t really like chili.’ LOL!!!
Kris says
Super cute photo-bomb by Miss Lucy!
Sarah says
I can’t get over how fluffy that cream cheese is!! What kind is that?!
Mavis Butterfield says
Just regular Philadelphia cream cheese in the big Costco 2? 3? pound tub. It was really warm so it was super easy to spread. I need to make a cheesecake with the rest of it.
rj abrams says
Will he eat cheesecake???
Beth says
What , you mean cheesecake actually has CHEESE in it? I know it does but don’t tell anybody. AND cream cheese is actually cheese.
As they age, men change, sometimes so much you wonder who they are.
HollyG says
My good friend from college told me a story of her mom going out of town once. It was usually her dad that went out of town – he was a horse breeder and a judge at shows – but his time it was her mother. My friend got up early and made her dad breakfast but when he sat down he looked it he sighed, “Oatmeal”. She said, “Dad, you’ve had oatmeal for breakfast everyday of my life. Everyday mom makes you oatmeal”. He replied that he had eaten oatmeal and hated it everyday of his marriage. He didn’t want to hurt his wife’s feelings by telling her he didn’t like oatmeal and appreciated all of the effort she put into making breakfast for him. Then he swore my friend to secrecy. I’m not sure she ever found out the truth,
amy says
oh my heart!
LoLo R. says
LOL. After 30 years of marriage, my hubby informed me that he really doesn’t like chicken since his family raised them and had it so often as a kid. At around 35 years of marriage, one day he let me know that he really preferred to have his shirt hangers face the opposite direction. If he had been on some kind of meds I would have thought it was the meds talking. And they say women are hard to understand! : )